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5 Steps to Owning It

“tain’t what ya do, it’s the way that you do it.”

1) Realize that you have it in you

It’s not out of your reach.  We live in a world of possibility.

Now that sounds a bit cheesy.  Just because we say that doesn’t mean that those possibilities are realistic.  But when has what others told us about reality deferred the revolutionaries from acting.

Say you wanted to fly.  Not in a plane, but in your own body.  We think of that as an impossibility.  Yet look at what these people can do with a little ingenuity, technology and a drive to achieve flight.

It’s in you.  You can achieve it.

2) Dive in – don’t just test the water

Owning it is about committing.  You can’t test the water from the top of the cliff.  You have to dive in.

This isn’t about doing what you are saying you are going to do.  This is about doing what you are doing fully.  You chose to do it so why only sort of do it.

If you only sort of do it you’ll only sort of get results.  It’ll take a few more sort of actions to get something resembling a meaningful result.  You’ll waste time being unsure and will waste energy not doing what you want to do.

Make a splash.

3) Act like you know what you’re doing

(even if you haven’t got a clue)

Probably one of the oldest tricks in the book to doing or being something.  Act like it and you’ll eventually become it.  By acting in a certain way you train yourself to be a certain way.  You develop a habit of being by exercising habits of action.

You learn a great deal by learning as you go.  You can’t know everything before you start or you’ll never start and thus never own it.

Pretend a bit and you’ll find it’s easier than you thought.

4) Be willing to fail, horribly.

You can’t succeed if you don’t try and the worse kind of failure is the failure to try.

When you dive in, act like you know what you are doing and believe in yourself it’s very possible that you may fail.  It’s also possible that you’ll succeed far beyond what you believed possible.

Fail.  Not once, not twice but over and over again.  The only way to really own it is to fail and then get up and try something else.

Go out and fall down.  Jumble your words.  Bomb a presentation.

5) Keep your head up.

Lastly, keep your head up.  Owning it requires a measure of confidence in yourself and that requires poise.

Whether it’s a performing art, public speaking, dating or just strutting your stuff, having your head down is a sure way to walk into something (literally and figuratively).

Develop good posture.  Keep your head up.  And if you can, smile.