Part of living an unconventional, or as I like to call it eccentric, life is to culture habits that stand out and shape your world view. This is a mini-series on habits of eccentricity, the second is Engagement. Check out the first part in this series on Awareness.
Engagement in the world is important to being eccentric. It is a commitment to each moment that we live, the actions that we take and the responsibility that comes with the freedoms we create.
love life, engage in it, give it all you’ve got. love it with a passion, because life truly does give back, many times over, what you put into it
Being engaged is taking an interest in people.
Ask about their interests, their life, their work – take a moment and actually listen and inquire on topics they are excited about. Ask for peoples names who help you out or provide a service and give thanks for their assistance.
Engaging in our relationships requires time and devotion. We may have to cut down on the amount of time we spend on casual relationships, but in terms of the 80/20 rule having a small core of close friends enriches our lives far more than a flighty network of acquaintances.
Taking an interest in casual acquaintances introduces us to new people, develops broad social networks, and enriches our own personality. Reaching out to others, even if only for a moment, teaches us far more about ourselves than engaging ourselves only with those who are like us.
Being engaged is having focus.
Cultivate intensity in your interests and activities. When you commit to a class, arrive and be aware of what is going on, give feedback and ask questions. When you subscribe to a hobby immerse yourself in it: seek out exemplars to learn from, carry it with you and practice constantly.
Developing focus empowers us, teaches us discipline, and often leads to a more productive existence. Our goals and aspirations become clear and attainable when we focus our energies. With focus you can cut through the fog of distractions and minutiae that sap our energy and time and make a visible difference.
Being engaged is taking responsibility.
Your actions and choices are yours alone. Scapegoating or blaming other people and circumstances disengages you from reality. While your actions may not always have the outcome you desire and the world may not present the best for you, it is still you acting and being in the world.
In my own life I have often taken my freedom for granted. While the freedoms I have, whether financially, in relationships, or educationally, have benefited me – taking those opportunities without taking on the responsibility that comes with them has taken more from me than I gained. Understanding that my spending, my friends, my actions, and decisions are my responsibility to engage with is a frightening yet empowering aspect of life.
The weight of freedom is responsibility.
Being engaged is being present.
Imagination and daydreaming have their place but they should not take over your life. Live now rather than for a dream of the future or a memory of the past. Find immediacy. Waiting for the future to happen or trying to relive the past lead to disappointment.
Living now can be difficult when we have goals that we are striving for or pasts that haunt us. When I get wrapped up in these things it is best that I take a moment and perform a physical action. Whether it is practicing calligraphy, working out, dancing or going for a walk, engaging in a hands-on trade or activity takes me out of my head and forces me into the present.
The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.
brings you closer to the world. You have more investment in the things that are important to you. Those activities give greater meaning to your life. Live a richer experience, live now.